The Compass Model

Five stages of recovery, mapped to give you direction when everything feels directionless. Click a stage to explore your recovery path.

N S E W Discovery SHOCK Stabilize Finding your footing Integrate Making meaning Heal Rebuilding what matters Beyond The new chapter

Click a stage on the compass to explore

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Center

The ICU Phase

Discovery Shock

Your nervous system has detected a threat to your survival. The person you trusted most has become the source of danger. Everything you believed about your life is being questioned in real time.

What to expect: Shock, disbelief, physical symptoms, inability to eat or sleep, obsessive searching for information. This is your body's threat response. It is normal, and it will not last forever.

First days to weeks. Priority: Survival

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North

Finding Your Footing

Stabilization

Before you can heal, you need to feel safe. This phase is about regulating your nervous system, establishing boundaries, and creating a foundation stable enough to do the deeper work.

Key tasks: Nervous system regulation, boundary setting, finding support, establishing routines that create a sense of safety and predictability in your daily life.

Months 1 to 3 (varies)

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East

Making Meaning

Integration

Now that you can breathe, you begin to ask the harder questions. Not "what happened" but "what does this mean about me, my relationship, and my life?"

Key tasks: Processing trauma narratives, identity work, examining relationship patterns. This is where you begin to make sense of what happened and who you are on the other side.

Months 3 to 6 (varies)

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South

Rebuilding What Matters

Healing

Whether you are rebuilding with your partner or building a new life on your own, this is where you begin to reconstruct trust, intimacy, and self-worth.

Key tasks: Trust rebuilding (self and/or partner), intimacy work, self-worth recovery. The focus shifts from surviving the crisis to actively choosing the life you want.

Months 6 to 12 (varies)

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West

The New Chapter

Beyond Betrayal

Betrayal is no longer the center of your story. It is part of your story, a chapter that changed you, deepened you, and revealed a strength you did not know you had.

Key tasks: Life narrative integration, post-traumatic growth, and, for many, finding meaning in helping others who are earlier on the path.

Year 1 and beyond

You know where you are. Now take the next step.

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